How to Still Enjoy Intimacy When Sex Hurts

If you're having difficulties with sexual pain then physical intimacy with your partner is likely a challenge. Here's a few tips for maintaining your sexual relationship even when intercourse may not currently be an option. 

Schedule Intimacy 

Schedule a weekly date with your partner to maintain emotional intimacy. Set aside a few hours to snuggle as you watch a movie or share an adventure together. Keeping emotionally connected with relieve the tension that can be caused by difficulties surrounding sex. Alternate with your partner to select activities you both enjoy. 

Experiment 

There are many exiting and fun ways to have sex even if you are unable to have intercourse. Set aside the idea that intercourse is the only "real" way to have sex and intimacy. Open your mind to sharing other types of sexual activity. 

Regularly Engage in Sexual Activity That Doesn't Cause Pain

Once you together find several sexual activities you can share in that are fun and exiting but don't cause pain, engage in these activities regularly. Many women lose interest in sex due to the pain they experience. But chances are you will eventually enjoy sex again if you can relax and be willing to engage in sexual activity with your partner that does not cause genital pain, sexual pain, or pelvic pain. 

Realize That Intimacy is Two People Working Together to Please Each Other

Intimacy is the result of two people working together to please each other. While some men may say that only intercourse is "real" sex, many admit that they get aroused by making their partner exited, with or without intercourse.